Today I bring you my review of one that turned out to be one of my favorite books of all time: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck – A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson.
For those of you that don’t know this book, this is a non-fiction book and it’s kind of an unusual “self-help” guide!
Mainly, Mark focuses on how we, as human beings, have flaws and are not perfect at all and that’s ok! We don’t have to worry about this little things that we often worry. As Mark says “In life, we have a limited amount of f*cks to give. So you must choose your f*cks wisely”.
I feel this book is like you best friend when having a serious conversation with you or some kind of intervention!
In times like these when we have so much information passing through our minds and our lives, sometimes it can be overwhelming. Nowadays it’s “a thing” to be positive to live a happy life, and don’t get me wrong everyone should be happy, but we can’t be positive and happy all times!! In my own experience, we read so many things, watch so many youtube videos and unconsciously we start putting pressure on ourselves to be this and that way. And because we have “this or that” we should be happy because another person said so. I found myself still having anxiety issues even when trying to be happy and I was starting to feel like “i will never be happy”! And this book came in the most appropriate time for me!
As Mark says in the book “(…) when you stop and really think about it, conventional life advice – all the positive and happy self-help stuff we hear all the time – is actually fixating on what you lack.“. This is so true! Everything that comes in exaggeration it’s too much! Yes we do need to be a bit more positive, it’s better for us, but on the other hand the pressure to be positive can be very bad because we struggle by not feeling positive all the time and we can feel like a failure because of that, and that’s wrong! We begin to think that we miss “this and that” in order to be happy and positive! We need to acknowledge that part of being human and being alive is to make mistakes and feel like shit sometimes! Otherwise we wouldn’t value the good things or learn anything! We should see a mistake as something good. Without mistakes we could never learn to do something other way.
“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”
I think I could be talking all day about this book because I truly loved every single page of it! It’s an easy yet tough reading! I say easy because Mark speaks directly to you as a real person (like your best friend) and with daily vocabulary. And I say tough as if you’re being scold by your mom and dad, so it is in a good way because they love you. And I think that’s what happen with Mark! I think he did give a f*ck about his readers and fellow human beings when he wrote this book!
I really recommend this book to everyone! Especially if you feel like you give to many f*cks about things you shouldn’t! This book can really open your eyes and it’s a great wake up call especially because these days we give to many fucks about little and meaningless things that can cause anxiety, depression, and other mental illnesses that are huge in this generations.
I already can say that this book is a life changer! Since I’ve read it I’ve changed some of my bad habits, and started to choose wisely the things I give a f*ck about! But don’t worry if you didn’t already! Everyone has his/her own pace, just relax, be grateful enjoy every single thing in your life and in your days, even the less good stuff, because they’re in your way for a reason!
“Instead of striving for certainty, we should be in constant search of doubt: doubt about your own beliefs, doubt about our own feelings, doubt about what the future may hold for us unless we get out there and create it for ourselves. Instead of looking to be right all the time, we should be looking for how we’re wrong all the time. Because we are. Being wrong opens up to the possibility of change.”
– Mark Manson